Engagement Gifts

My fiancee and I got engaged in September. Because I'm Jewish (Jews traditionally give gifts and commitment they give off the register), we have recorded. We have already had 6-8 things from the registry (mainly China stuff, but we got our comforter). Our wedding is not until May 24, 2009. Last night, my grandmother (and two cousins who were married in October 2006 and September 2007) stated that, technically, we are not supposed to use everything you after marriage.

Now I can not really use any of China and yet I understand that the things get for my shower and the wedding I can not use until we get married, but I'm not supposed to use anything for next year and a half! I must leave it all sitting in boxes and take all the space in my guest room in our apartment?

If you are allowed to use things that you get an engagement gift? The reason everyone says no, because they said, if the commitment was to end, we would have to return everythng we GT

Congratulations on your commitment.

Yes, you are allowed to use these things.
They are gifts you b / c you are engaged.
And you would not have to return engagement gifts b / c you are really committed. If someone gave you a wedding gift early and you do not marry, then it is different.
Best wishes.

You're Jewish, so I do not know how your religion feel about it, but I know that most other religions DO allow you to open gifts and use them as soon as you get! Is what they are there for. If you're really not 100% sure whether the commitment will last, wait, otherwise, enjoy.

I've never heard of anyone returning items if the engagement did not last - but then again I've never known anyone to withdraw a commitment, personally.

Technically, your family is right. If something were to happen, you would be responsible for returning all of engagement gifts. It seems like a waste, but at least you'll have all these new cool stuff to use when you're married!

The items we have received from our commitment to things like champagne, and personalized items. If the gift is for your commitment, you should be able to use it because you're engaged! I doubt the donors of these gifts you expect to wait more than a year to enjoy!

Wow, werid negative outlook. Um, now you need just to open the stuff and watch it and test it, so why not start using it! I had to return a lot of things that do not work properly or is the wrong thing in the box ... damaged and all sorts of things. Some of my China has been chipped and broken! I got the evil eye in the right box!

Just use it and not tell them. If you think your going to leave in a year .. then maybe, but I do not want to come on! Do they really think that your commitment will end? " Tell them that you mail them a check if it happens! LOL

Traditionally, you do not use one of your gifts until you are officially married. I have a room full of engagment gifts that I'm dying to dig ... but I think patience is a virtue:)

We would not be sure your family is right. Your marriage is very far yet!
Just keep the substance stored. You'll be glad to be able to use all this stuff again both of you are married and live together as husband and wife! This is part of the particularity of being married!

They are right. You're not supposed to use or open one of your gift until your wedding. The reason is in case something happens and the wedding is canceled, the gifts are returned. Perhaps you could store them at home parents? We stored all our gifts until after the marriage has been a challenge because it was a great wedding and we received many gifts, but we got there. God thank you.